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Taming your inner People Pleaser in midlife
Many of my clients tell me they’re people pleasers. I wonder if this is because I spent a lot of my time and energy people-pleasing myself, so I attract clients who have similar experiences? It’s a tendency that I’ve worked hard on recognizing, understanding, and changing so I enjoy helping others do the same. Here’s…
Developing self-trust in midlife
“The more uncertain the world is, the more important it is to trust yourself.” – Mercedes Finlay Self-trust is the backbone of the Power Years™. It is what allows you to take risks, and let go of what’s not working anymore. It supports bold choices and quietly creating a truer, more fulfilling life. Self-trust gives you the courage…
“I’m putting a lot of time and thought into how I am living my life.”
Melanie Gordon was a new mom of a 20-month old when she found a lump in her breast. This forced her from new mom mode into survival mode. Her experience with cancer made what was important to her very clear and she's been spending her time since recovering focused very intentionally on those things.
“I started to hear a little voice inside me asking ‘what else?’.”
I finally turned the tables on myself and answered my own questions about midlife and my story. I talk about my challenges with a very rare congenital issue that cost me my first pregnancy, our early challenges with our daughter's health, and the shifts that propelled me into my midlife transformation.
“I wanted my work to align with the things I care about in the world.”
When Amy Giddon was in her early-50s she took a huge leap to become an entrepreneur. Moved by her deep concerns about the tribalism and us versus them-ism and othering that's going on in the world today, Amy created an app that fosters empathy and connection. It was an unexpected shift but one that was made possible because of the life stage in which she found herself in her early 50s.
“I’m a happy woman and that is a choice every single day.”
Debra Christmas is a ball of energy in her early 60s who is determined to live another 40 years. She talks about what it was like 20 years ago juggling the end of her marriage, and taking care of her kids with her demanding career and travel schedule. Debra also shares what growing up in a Montreal's black community taught her about the importance of contribution.
“In our 40’s, we begin to realize who we really are and who we are meant to be.”
At 40, Jeanette Ramnarine and her husband were put in a position, after he was laid off, to think about what they were passionate about and how they could work together to support their family. What emerged was a family business that allows them to prioritize what's most important to them and do work that doesn't feel like work.
10 clarifying questions to ask in midlife
These questions are designed to help you get clarity about who you are becoming, what's important to you, and what you want to be doing more of in midlife and beyond.
“I’m so much more at ease with myself.”
Her passion is helping people reach their financial goals but Nancy Zimmerman gave up pursuing it when she left Vancouver 10 years ago. Now financially healthy herself she's got wisdom to share and is following her calling.
“I had been using the wrong barometer for success all along.”
Carol Sloan's transformation from teacher to freelance writer has reinflated her "once sad balloon". This new chapter of focusing on her dreams and stopping old habits of people-pleasing makes her feel like herself again.