6 questions to ask yourself when you feel stuck

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On the homepage of this site, I pose the question, “What do you want more of in your life?”.

This question didn’t come out of thin air. It bubbled up out of an anonymous survey I sent out to friends, acquaintances, and friends of friends, asking about their goals, challenges, barriers, and what they think they need to feel fulfilled. Nearly 40 women answered the survey.

All the people who answered have big, beautiful goals. They want more fun, creativity, love, adventure, success, wellness, connection, uncluttered physical environment, and satisfying work.

Some of the things that stand in the way of them realizing their dreams are fear, health challenges, lack of confidence, energy, money, self-esteem, and almost universally, lack of time.

Not everyone who answered the survey feels stuck but it was one of the strongest themes that emerged from the responses.

I have a lot of empathy for feeling stuck. I understand how hard it can be to bust out of well-worn patterns, habits, and beliefs. When I’ve felt like that in the past, I haven’t been able to see what’s possible. I haven’t been able to see that I have choices. It feels like I’m going around and around in circles and nothing changes. My Inner Critic pipes up to tell me that everyone else is moving forward, growing, and changing so there must be something wrong with me that I can’t.

Life throws curveballs. I’m not sure I know anyone who hasn’t been dealt some really challenging and even heartbreaking cards. But outside the things we can’t control there is a lot we can, starting with our thoughts, beliefs, actions, and reactions. Perspective counts and it’s something that can be shifted.

And because we’re all naturally creative, resourceful, and whole all the answers are within.

So, if you’re feeling stuck and want to get things flowing in a new direction, start by asking yourself these 6 questions:

  1. What am I tolerating?
  2. What would “unstuck” look like?
  3. What is important to me now?
  4. What do I want my life to look like in a year?
  5. Who am I becoming?
  6. What do I want more of?

It’s amazing how with more awareness suddenly the possibilities multiply until you realize you’re actually not in the same place you started.


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Sara Smeaton

I help you discover the joy and power in midlife and navigate the transitions on your own terms. I am passionate about changing the narrative about aging and am trying to fill the world with profiles of real life people who are thriving and more alive after 40 than ever before. The best is yet to come and there are role models all around us. Book your free 30-minute connection call.

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